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  • Ren Lewis

ONWARD

As they say, sometimes you win, and sometimes you learn.


Dear Amazing Reader,

Have you ever wanted something really badly....like I mean really really badly?

You think about it.

You picture yourself there.

It makes you smile.

And then, when you actually build up the courage to go for it, and your so amazed at yourself?

You tell your closest friend's and family.

You prepare yourself.

You pray about it.

You go after it....

And then...


BANG.


It doesn't go through.


You're crushed for a moment.

Your heart feels like it skips a beat.

You're angry.

You feel like you've failed.

You cry.

You wallow.

You ask why me?

You examine your tiny existence and wonder your own self-worth.



And then...like a light at the end of a lonnnng, dark tunnel. You here a tiny little voice say.


"Hey you..

Get up!

Stop wallowing in self-pity....

Stop complaining....

Look around you.

Look at everything you've been so fortunate to experience.

Look at all the times you tried and failed and tried again.

This is not the end of the world.

Look at all the times you've succeeded.

This is what makes life beautiful.

Pick yourself up.

Get your thoughts together.

Onward!"


The word of 2020: Onward


I love this word so very much. There is something that is so militant about it. Something that feels like it pushes you back into your senses. Back into your strength. Back into that person who knows that anything is possible.


It's been both a triumphant and challenging start to the year.


That's life though, right?

I've personally stepped out into a lot of new areas in life.

Pushing myself a little harder than normal. I hope you are doing the same.

I once listened to an inspirational speech that said the best way to succeed is just to keep on failing.

Fail faster.

So I ran with this.

And I've failed a few times already.

But each time I do I notice that I pick myself up a little faster.

I notice that its getting easier and easier to laugh at myself.

I notice that it's easier for me to be more vocal about what I want out of life, even if it doesn't look like it's happening as fast as I'd like it too.

But most of all, I feel like I'm in motion.

I'm running.

I'm falling.

I'm feeling the sting of rejection and pushing through it.

I'm feeling the glory of completion and I'm LOVING it.

This is what you call the process, and friends I'm diving right into it.



An exercise for you:

A wise man once asked me: Do you have code of conduct?

I mean a list of things that you abide by?

Have you asked yourself the question, Who am I?

What do I stand for?

What do I want to be known for?

When people think of me, what is the first thing I want to come to their mind?

You'd be surprised what this little exercise can do.

After receiving this advice I wrote Ren's own little Code of Conduct.

It's how I want people, and by people I mostly mean my children and my family, to see me.

I want to be someone they can count on.

I want to be a person of my word. If I say it I'm gonna do it.

I want to be kind.

A good listener.

Patient.

Resourceful.

Responsible.


Now am I these things?

Not yet, not fully.

But I've written it down, so I can look at it, and remind myself, this is the person I'm trying to be everyday.

This is a person I would be proud to know I am.


This is the reason why I'm facing the rejections and mistakes and failures head on.

Because I want to get to her.

I must get to her.

So dear friend....who do you want to be in the next year. What do you want to be known for?


Onward!




Love,

Ren



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