• Ren Lewis

Be Real with Yourself.

If you are still in self-development mode for 2020, this is the perfect read for you.

Dear Amazing Reader,

Thanks so much for taking the time to read my blog, it truly means so much to me that you stopped in to do so.

Are you being real with yourself?

I find that it's very easy to complain about life, where you are, what you have and don't have, what you wish would change or happen for you.

Trust me, I've been there, and sometimes still find myself there to his day.

How can you combat these thoughts and feelings?

One thing that I try to practice everyday is to be real with myself. I try to keep the doors of reality open, and cultivate an honest relationship with myself. Because it all starts with me.

Whatever situation I'm faced with, I like to stop and ask myself " Why am I really here?"

I'll tell you a story.

There was a woman who was so desperately fed up with her lifestyle. She worked a job she hated. She had dreams and aspirations, things she wanted to try, but believed she didn't have any time to get to them. She was a mother who often times found herself scrolling through Instagram when she should have been spending more time with her children. She moaned and complained inside of herself wondering why.

Why do I feel so stuck?

Why do I feel like something is holding me back?

Why is it so hard to finish what I start or to pursue what I truly desire?

Why do I find myself in the same place year after year?

She tried to blame her job, and all the time it stole from her.

She tried to blame it on being a mom.

She tried to blame it on age.

She even tried to blame it on her family.

But she never, EVER took ownership and blamed herself.

And therein lies the problem.

That is why year after year, this woman found herself in the same old struggle.

Blaming situations, circumstances or other people for where you is like giving excuses a great big hug.

You are where you are because of you.

Let that sink in.

I'll say it again for those in the back.

You are where you are because of you.

Point blank. Your perspective, your mindset, your lack of confidence, your lack of honesty. These are the ONLY things that are holding you back. Not your boss. Not your spouse. Not your kids. Not your finances.

Just you.

Sound a little harsh?


But nobody ever changed because someone lied to them.

People change when they hear and embrace the truth.

Here's an activity for you, whether you are crushing goals or not.

Grab a notebook, and write down every single thing you want to improve in your life. It could be as simple as waking up earlier, or as complex as going back to school or starting a business. Beside each of those things, write down all the things YOU will need to do to make that dream a reality.

For example lets say you want to go back to school, but you're 33, you have children and a job.

Ok- so you're not 19 anymore, and you have more responsibilities...THAT'S OK!

Where there's a will, there's a way.

Research schooling options- are there any online courses you can take? Is there anyone you can ask to help you with your children for a few hours a week while you tuck yourself away and get to those courses? Ask questions. Evaluate. Do everything that is in your power to do. And once you've done all, stand.

Are you giving 100%?

Are you doing the best you can do to live the life you want to live?

Be honest with yourself.

If the answer is no, and you are honest about it, TODAY you can start to change that. And you don't have to move mountains to start walking in your change. Small baby steps are the best way to grow, accomplish a goal, and move your life in the direction you want it to start going.

There is no overnight success- I promise.

And where there is an overnight success, there will be overnight destruction. Just read through the pages of history. Anyone who tried to take a shortcut just arrived unprepared.

Take your time. Life is not a rat race unless you want it to be. Set aside time to develop yourself, competing only with the person you were last year, last month, last week. Focus on making that person a better one.

But it all starts with honesty.

Problems can be solved only when you acknowledge you have one.

And the best part about all problems is that there is always a solution.



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